How to Bring Yourself Back from the Dark Side
Learning to live with past trauma
There is no cure for post-traumatic stress disorder. The triggers of past trauma don’t magically disappear over time. However, over time, you can get better at managing the triggers.
One, you can learn to identify them. Or, you can at least detect that something is triggering you, even if you can’t put your finger on it.
Two, you can master which coping mechanism or self-care tool you’re going to need to bring yourself back to a relaxed and peaceful state, or even a bearable state. A bearable state is progress, if relaxed and peaceful isn’t achievable.
The Window of Tolerance
It’s important to distinguish between what self-care tools you need to use depending on your reaction to what’s triggered you. There is what’s referred to in trauma recovery as a “window of tolerance”. When your tolerance for whatever is going on around you is within two parallel lines, “=”, you’re good. When you become escalated and go above that top parallel line, you need something to calm you down. When you numb out and go below the bottom parallel line, you need something to snap you back.
It looks like this:
